Wednesday, May 28, 2008
She is sleeping in a bed
Her speech is doing really well. She is starting to use two and three word sentences in English. She can sing itsy bitsy spider, Jesus loves me and You are my sunshine. She says I love you, bye bye, this way, potty, eat, victoria did it:), mine:), and the favorite word of a two year old NO!!!:).
We are all doing well and I can actually go out with the three of them with some normalcy. We went to the zoo which she liked but it was so hot we wilted. Then my tropic girl had to deal with 50 degree weather after having hundred degree weather. I know us Californians.
Megan's little personality is coming out. She has a great combination of loving dolls and playing mommy, to being a tom boy and loving trucks. She loves to be outside running around, riding on bikes and scooters. The water table is her favorite thing to play with. If there is water she is excited. She is sweet but can be very stubborn. She loves to see how things work and is always trying to figure stuff out. She is such a perfect fit for our family. God has truly blessed us.
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
China Earthquake
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Monday, May 12, 2008
Mother's day and update




Hi everyone I have decided I am going to try to update about once a week. I don't have an exciting enough life for more than that.:) Anyways Happy Mother's Day to everyone. I hope yours was as nice as mine. Megan is snuggling in my arms as I type this might be an effort for me. Ever since Megan has truly called me Ma Ma in Chinese we have been having night terrors and crying sometimes a couple of times a night. I think she is terrified I might leave her as well. You think about what she has been through its incredible little children still trust. She was abandoned as an infant. She lived in the orphanage about a year and then had a foster mom. Only then she was ripped away from her and placed in my arms. For what she has been through she is doing so well. I am truly amazed by her.
I am tired but I would be with a newborn as well. Tom has been so fantastic. He even took 2 nights this weekend that was the greatest Mother's day gift. I am still trying to get used to three kids. It is so hard. I know having three kids under 5 is just hard but wow I just cannot get myself together. So if there are any of you out there reading this who have three kids with any advice please e-mail me or leave comments I would truly appreciate any advice you might have.
We took Megan to church and they have a family room that we could all go to so that worked well. We are not ready to leave her yet. Matthew and Victoria can still go to there little church and we can at least get her used to going. Megan still doesn't give many kisses. She gives them to Victoria especially but they are still few and far between. I wonder if its cultural they don't kiss or is it just the orphans of China who have this problem. I know reading adoption sites we are not alone. She is definitely coming out of her shell she does these funny little things and sings in Chinese. She also is picking up songs in English. She loves itsy bitsy spider, twinkle, twinkle little star and Jesus loves me. She is also picking up the lay me down to sleep prayer.
Mother's day as I said before was wonderful. We had everyone and I mean everyone at a park over in Canyon country for Mother's day. We had my mom, Tom's mom, Amy, Amy's future Mother in law Peggy and me. Plus we had the kiddos and the dads. We had a nice little party going. We had pizza from Stonefire and then the guys played football. We had an ice fight(with the ice from the cooler.) The kiddos all loved it and thought it was terrific. We even got ice cream from the ice cream truck. Its amazing Megan went from having no one to this amazing family we have. All of them love her so much and I am so proud of all of them for accepting her as part of the fam. Not one of them shows any reservations or lack of love toward her. Not that I expected them to but its so awesome to see our families love in action. We are truly blessed as a family. I included some pictures hope you enjoy them.
Tired of typing one handed I am amazed I did as well as I did. Have a great week and like I said I will update it once a week.
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Update!!!
Last week was really hard. Megan is getting a little to comfortable.:) Plus the newness has worn off with Matthew and Victoria so they are not as willing to share. We had a rough Tuesday and Wednesday. I literally could not get anything done. Even if I put laundry in the kids would start yelling at each other. Victoria and Megan would yell at each other to the point I thought they were killing each other. They weren't though they were just yelling at each other. After two days it seemed to calm down. The rest of the week and this week has been better.
My birthday was this weekend, and Megan was so cute she didn't know what she was saying, but she sang happy birthday to me. It was adorable. She also granted me three kisses on Monday the best present I could have gotten. Megan seems to really be bonding with me. One thing we have noticed is the last couple nights she seemed to be having night terrors. She just started, but we know with adopted children its pretty normal. Its so sad to see her crying and kicking and not be able to comfort her. When I try to hold her or pat her back it seems to get worse so I just usually sit with her.
Megan did have her full physical and 5 shots poor thing. They did take a couple of x-rays of her head to make sure everything is okey. Besides that everything is great.
Matthew and Victoria are doing well. Victoria loves having a sister and would love her to share a room with her(so she thinks:). Megan still wants to be on the couch but she will at least get into bed during snuggle time at night. I signed Matthew up for Kindergarten in the fall. I can't believe he is going to Kindergarten.
Well that is about it. I will try to update it more often but with 3 kids running around I am first exhausted and secondly trying to figure out the craziness that ensues with having three of them.
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Megan's first trip to the Beach
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Some family fun




We had a great weekend. In sunny California we had a wonderful sunny weekend. The temperatures went from 70 to 90 degrees. It was really nice. We got the water table out and the kids and I(Wendy) got soaked. Megan had her first ice cream. Which she said was yummy. Mr. J(Tom's dad) came and helped us build some planters to plant a vegetable garden with the kiddos.
All in all its been a great couple of days. Megan is sleeping great now. Except for the occasional cry out in her sleep she is doing fantastic. She is saying lots of words although I don't know is she knows what it all means. Whatever Victoria does or says she repeats. Mr. J played school with them yesterday and she said the whole alphabet with the other kids. Plus counted to ten. It was so cute. I can tell she really understands us alot. I know she doesn't when she keeps saying yes to something she shouldn't be saying yes too.:) Or I give a choice of milk or OJ and she says yes to both.
The great news is the doctor says we don't have to worry about her. We will of course keep watch on her as she grows up but as of now there is nothing to be concerned about. She is healthy and developing well. Yippee!!! We are so happy.
I included a couple of pictures for you to enjoy.
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
She slept through the night!!!
The hardest thing I am finding right now is how much to discipline her and how much do I need to bond with her. Obviously hurting the other kids is not okey. She throws all out temper tantrums. I tell her know but I don't think she understands that I am saying no to the temper tantrum. Its a hard fine balance. That is my worse issue at this point.
Megan can say thank you now. She repeats a lot of what Victoria says but has no idea what she is saying yet. As we are speaking Victoria and her are singing happy birthday. Last night they were both on their rocking horses. Victoria and Megan for the most part are getting along fantastically. They love to play together chase and peekaboo. They sing together and were sitting at their table eating and cooking a meal together. They were so cute. I will try to load some pictures today. I have to run but just wanted to write a short update.
Monday, April 07, 2008
Family get together and first day home with megan(Alone)

Megan met my(Wendy's) side of the family last night and she had a ball. She loves her cousin Ellie. She actually cried when she left. It was sad but good. She is an outgoing little girl ready to play with anyone who will play with her. Dad took some pictures and I included them in the post. Ellie is the big girl holding Megan. The other two are Matthew and Victoria. Matthew is hiding in the second picture. Silly guy was being a typical boy.:)
Last night was my night to stay up with Megan. It actually went pretty well. We got her to bed at 8:15pm and she woke up at 10:30pm. It was my job to put her back to sleep so I got her back up on the couch and started to rub her back. She started to freak out and kick and scream. I thought she wouldn't settle down, and I would have to go get Tom, but it went suprisingly well. She cried for about 5 minutes for baba. She wouldn't let me rub her back but she did let me sit next to her and she went back to sleep. We repeated that at about 5:30am. She slept til about 7:30am this morning.
Most people wouldn't think that was very good but that is fantastic. Just think two weeks ago if I came near her she would kick, bite or hit me. Bonding takes awhile. One thing we are learning. They don't just trust you or attach to you. Once they do though its amazing they really care about you. No hugs and kisses yet. The cat got one but we haven't yet. That is okey I have heard of kids not giving real hugs and kisses for 6 months to a year. We give her plenty though.
Today well its gone fantastic. I can't even believe it. Megan said baba was in the bathroom. I think she thinks he is still in there. That is pretty funny.
This girl can eat. Let me tell you what she had for lunch. I started with one piece of leftover chicken, rice, and grapes. She had three helpings of rice and one more helping of grapes I thought she was done. She threw a temper tantrum and I couldn't figure out why. She wanted more. She ended up eating 2 more servings of grapes, a tomato, a piece of pizza and a couple of strawberries. She is going to send us to the poor house if she continues to eat that way.:)
I haven't gotten her down for a nap yet but its been a great day so far. It has far exceeded my expectations. Gotta run. Wish me luck in getting her down for a nap.
Sunday, April 06, 2008
We all slept!!!
Tom and I are actually awake and somewhat rested. Hallelujah is all I can say. Megan is doing well. She has decided the couch is her bed. She won't even go upstairs unless she is going to take a bath. So we decided if that is what makes her sleep right now then that is fine with us. We read this adoption site and this doctor said we are in the "do what you have to" phase. That is basically how we feel right now.
Megan is really warming up to me. When I leave she starts crying for me and gets upset. That is huge progress. The only problem is she wants both of us to be with her, so we will see how tomorrow goes. Tom goes back to work tomorrow. I feel confident for the most part but there may be some crying tomorrow we will see.
Matthew and Victoria are having some issues but doing pretty well. Victoria had a hard time with us being away, but I don't think she has a problem with Megan yet. :) I am sure it will come. She loves being the big sister. I took her grocery shopping to have girl time and she helped me get the groceries. She wanted half an apple instead of sliced. Megan and her have to sit together at the dinner table. There has been a few little Megan stop it or no Megan's but so far so good.
Matthew is old enough now he liked it for about a day and then he was ready to send her back. Sounds like me with my little sis(Love ya Amy):). We know its completely natural and we are really trying to let them feel comfortable expressing there feelings with us. Tom had big boy and daddy time today which I thought was great.
Megan gets to meet my parents today and Auntie Amy and her cousin Ellie. Tom's parents have already met her. We will see how she does with a little group before I get a big group together.:)
Wednesday, April 02, 2008
We are home
She has got to be going on fumes as well. Poor thing. She only got 3 hrs on the plane which means she is going to crash not sure when. Things they don't tell you about adoption and note to others. I think this is worse than the grieving. You are exhausted and if you have other kids who didn't go with you they are on regular time. I am going to have to sleep when she sleeps.
So if you don't hear from me for a few days that is why. Okey best be off to play with her.
Tuesday, April 01, 2008
Our last night here

Sunday, March 30, 2008
A few more pictures



Its been raining today so we hung out in the play room with a bunch of families. This afternoon we have an afternoon tea buffet and the famous red couch photos. We got our white swan barbie (No mom you can't sell it on ebay:).) Tomorrow is our last full day here. We are anxious to get home to our other kiddos but this last part of the trip has been really nice.
Megan has been doing great today with me. She let Tom leave and she didn't cry. We play and she loves the song "Open shut them". She is even trying to sing the english words as well. She is taking a nap now. Megan still needs Tom for night time and naps but we are starting to bond.:) Her cough is much better now. Tom and I are fighting something, but we don't know if its just tempature and smoke, or if we have the same cough thing she had.
I will upload the red couch photo later today. Talk to you all soon.
Pictures
Saturday, March 29, 2008
What a beautiful night
We had a great day yesterday. We went walking around Shamian Island which is just beautiful. We got some silk dresses for the girls. Megan needed some shoes so we got squeaky shoes. Every time they step it squeaks. They are great because I know where she is when she loves to run off from us. Its all in fun but I am not taking her to a department store any time soon.:).
Megan is really warming up to me. I can carry her most of the time now. Chase after her and she keeps going instead of running back to Tom. The most hilarious thing she did yesterday was decided to use our toilet as a squatty potty. She was trying to climb up on the potty her self so I was holding her but I didn't realize what she was doing. So she got up squatted on the potty and went. The only problem is she was squatting the wrong way and the pee went everywhere. I wish I could have video taped it, it was classic.
She still loves her squatty potty. We went to the restaurant last night and she wanted to go three times. I got her in the squatty potty and I didn't know what to do with a little kid. Its hard enough for me to go. She just knew what to do. She squatted way down and just went. I was really impressed. I am really glad I didn't bring Matthew and Victoria along they would have freaked out. :).
The hotel has a Mattel play room and it has all sorts of toys to play with. Megan was scared at first, I don't exactly know why but once she got the hang of it she did great. Its great to have since its raining here. Not hard just heavy mist alot.
We are going to the Pearl Market today see if we can find some good deals. I guess they are known for there Pearls. Megan is from as seaside city who specializes in pearls. We thought it would be cool to get her one. We are hoping to go on a river cruise the next couple of nights. They do a laser show off the river and thought that would be really fun. We will see.
Our paperwork is done we are just waiting for her visa and we will be leaving Wednesday your Tuesday so its coming up. We love you Matthew and Victoria and we will be home soon.
Friday, March 28, 2008
We Passed!!!
We are on this really beautiful island that was occupied by the french and british so the buildings are a lot like Savannah, GA. Its so nice here. Very, very humid and for us hot but we feel free again.
Of course now Megan has seem to have gotten a cold on top of her chicken pox. We took her to western doctor. It was so nice. I will have to say the Guangzhou staff for Holt is so nice here. The head person took us personally to the doctors. Got her some cold and cough medicine. The clinic even came and got us and then brought us back. I could have hung out in Guangzhou longer but we will be so happy to get on an airplane and come home. Yipppee!!!
Megan is doing fantastic. She didn't like the doctor but that was to be expected. She told Catherine(our guide) that she didn't want to get shots. Catherine told her not to worry and what they would be doing, but she was still upset. She has adjusted to the new place, and she is warming up to me more and more every day. She jabbers a lot I just wish I could understand her. We have our games that we play and we enjoy them. She says Mommy, Daddy and Megan. She has no idea that is her name yet. We are working on that. I better go play with her but just wanted to update you all.
We are in Heaven!!!
We had a breakthrought today. Megan and I are bonding. She is letting me take her potty again and we played alot. Its amazing how every day she just makes huge improvements. She is such a crazy two year old though. Running around and a wiggle worm. She is driving poor Tom crazy and there is nothing I can do to help him. Its late and we are hungry so we are going to scrounge something to eat. Hope you all have a great day.
P.S. Thank you to everyone who has been praying for us and writing me e-mails I so appreciate it. I needed it the last couple days. I am feeling much better now thanks to all the love we are feeling.:)
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Progress slow and steady
Things are going really well with Megan. Last night she went to sleep without any grieving for her foster mom. She is now smiling a lot and acting very playful.
Megan is still a daddy's girl, but she is starting to attach to me also. This afternoon she finally let me take her to the potty and is playing with me often.
Let me just tell you what an amazing little girl Megan is. (brag time) She is fully potty trained and stays completely dry during the night. She blows her nose by herself and is extremely skilled at eating by herself with a spoon. We though there would be some developmental delays, with her spending the 1st 9 months in an orphanage, but there are none. As hard as it is to adopt a child who is attached to a foster mother, if it wasn't for that attachment, she wouldn't be as well adjusted as she is. She is still a little spoiled and prone to tantrums when she doesn't get her way, but we'll have plenty of time to work on that when we get back to the US.
We miss everyone and cannot wait to return home. As much as we have enjoyed our time in China, noting beats being in our own home and in our own bed. If all goes well with her medical appointment on Saturday we can leave on Wednsday. Please continue to pray that all her pox are scabbed over by then.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Last day in Nanning
I know that sounds weird but my attachment will come.
There isn't a lot to write about since we haven't done anything. I am asking for prayers. Lots and lots of prayers. Tom and I are feeling anxious and upset about having to stay longer away from Matthew and Victoria. We are feeling a little like lepers.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
A rough night and bonding with daddy

What a difference a day makes


Monday, March 24, 2008
Hello from Nanning
We got to the hotel and Jane our guide became our personal guide.:) Kind of nice. So the other people went to the civil affairs office to get there children we got Megan in our hotel room. I actually preferred it that way. We were caught off guard because we didn't have our presents ready. So I raced into the other room and wrapped them while Tom talked to the orphanage workers. They were so sweet. They had already taken Megan to the doctors and got medication for her so we don't have to do anything like that. The Chicken Pox don't seem to bad.
She brought her in and she said mama and baba and was just kind of checking us out. Once the caregivers from the orphanage left the crying began. She threw an all out crying, kicking, screaming. We tried to hold her at first but she is such a small little girl I just sat with her and let her cry. She did this 45 minutes saying she wanted to go back to mama which is her foster mom. I am so glad she loved her so much. Usually the bonding is so much better. After she subsided they took our picture and did some paperwork. We are going to the Civil affairs office this morning to do some more paperwork.
After our guide left we could tell she was exhausted so we got her some dinner which she woudn't eat. So after some prodding she let me take her clothes off and get her into a bath and put some nice clean pj's on. She then fell asleep in my arms around 6:30pm. She woke up once around 9:30pm but then went back to sleep in my arms. She now has entered the velcro stage with me. Poor Tom she won't let him come near her. We both feel its better since he has to return to work, so its better its me than him. So that is it in length. Just continue to pray for her and us. Thank you it has worked for me. I have never been so peaceful, calm or patient as I was yesterday. I needed it, so thank you.
We Have Her
Things are kinda hectic right now so there is no time to post any pictures. Hopefully there will be time tomorrow.
Sunday, March 23, 2008
CHICKEN POX!!!
Last day in Beijing
After a nice lunch we headed out for more touring. Today was perfect, beautiful weather and blue skies. We went to the temple of heaven and Tienamen square. I enjoyed it but I think all of the adoptive families including us are just anxious to go meet our daughters. That is all we did is talk about it with each other. It was a nice day. We came back and decided to go for hot pot. Kind of like fondue but with soup and a sauce. We had it last night and loved it so much we went back. We are getting better with chop sticks but its nice when a restaurant will give you a fork and you don't have to get all messy.
Tomorrow will be a busy day. We are leaving for the airport at 5:00 am and flying to Nanning. After a three hour flight and checking in to the hotel, we will be off to the Civil Affairs Office to meet our new daughter. Yippie!!!!
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Megan's updated picture
Another full Day in Beijing





Friday, March 21, 2008
We are taking a rest between sight seeing



We went to this family style restaurant and had a wonderful lunch. I did not expect to like the food in China so much, but we have loved it so far. The most hilarious thing about the restaurant was the restroom . The sinks were red butts sticking out(yes you read that right). You had to lean over to wash your hands. We all thought it was hilarious. I made it today without using a squatty potty. I was very excited.:)
The forbidden city was incredible. We could not get over the size of it. It just kept going and going. Their history is very rich, and I am fascinated with it.
A lot of people have been complaining about there beds. I will admit they are very hard but I almost like it. We slept really well but were awake at 3am in the morning. We are doing well today, as far as jet lag. Although, Tom is now asleep taking a nap. We are going to see the acrobat show tonight and then off to the great wall tomorrow.
Oh Melanie by the way Happy Birthday!!!
Thursday, March 20, 2008
Our first adventure



Tom and I, in our attempt to stay awake, went exploring the wonderful shopping area of Beijing. It was right down the street from our hotel. First thing we noticed is drivers and pedestrians only use stop signs and cross walks as suggestions. It's a little scary to cross the street. So we latched on to a crowd who looked like they knew what they were doing, and made it safely across.
Dad, I found two McDonalds right in the area we are staying. Ahh they even had Big Mac's but who wants a big mac when you are in Beijing:). So we found the exotic food market section and there were locusts, cockroaches, scorpions still wiggling on the sticks. We tried what was supposed to be chicken. Pretty good, but a little to spicy.
The people in the market place were amazingly agressive. They would literally pull you into their store and start trying to sell you things. There were some awesome things but nothing we want to buy yet. It was crazy trying to walk through the market. If you made eye contact you were pulled in.
After exploring we went to a famous restaurant that served Peking Duck. Really good but we realized how culturally ignorant we are to their customs. The waitress did not speak a lot of English, but did help us out on how to eat it. It was fantastic. I will be safe if I eat Peking duck every night of the trip. We really liked it.
We are off to sleep. Its 3am now Los Angeles time and we are definitely feeling the jet lag.:)
We are here!!!
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Today is the Day!!!
Monday, March 10, 2008
Itinerary for China
Mar/20 Thursday
Arrive in
Mar/21 Friday
Go on tour of Forbidden
Mar/22 Saturday
Go on tour of Great Wall & Hutong Lane.
Mar/23 Sunday
9:00am orientation in Hotel Meeting Room
Half day tour of Tiananmen Square and
Mar/24 Monday
Arrive in Nanning
3:30pm Child handoff in Civil affairs office. Get Megan:)
Mar/25 Tuesday
9:30am Adoption registration in the Civil Affair Bureau,
Notarization in notary office
Optional shopping.
Mar/26 Wednesday
Optional activities arranged by Holt.
Mar/27 Thursday
Optional activities arranged by Holt.
Mar/28 Friday
Mar/29 Saturday
9:30am-10:30am paper work-checking in Hotel Meeting room then medical check
Mar/30 Sunday
Optional activities arranged by Holt.
Mar/31 Monday
Visa appointment
Apr/1 Tuesday
Oath-taking ceremony
Apr/2 Wednesday
Coming back to USA